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Good day to all!!! I met a very good man, he is Russian himself, but as a child he moved to live with his parents in Germany .... I know everything about him and his family, at first glance everything is fine, but suddenly there are some pitfalls, in I can't be 100% sure about this! So he invites me to visit, sent me money so that I can make all the necessary documents .... I seem to be ready to go, but I’m still afraid, because many terrible things happen to young girls ... Please tell me how best to protect yourself ?? ? Maybe ask him for some copies of documents ... in general, I don’t know !!! What do you think about it????
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Do you have his address? Last name first name. He still has to send an invitation, all this data is there.
Leave it all to the relatives. Drive the number of the consulate into the memory of the mobile phone, find out the phone number of the police, in Germany. If suddenly something - do not be afraid, call. Always have your passport with you, do not give it to anyone, and even more so for preservation.
Buy a local card on your phone, the cheapest is 10 euros.
But this is so, precautions, rumors about the trade in young ladies, to put it mildly, are greatly exaggerated.
There are enough volunteers, and even with an overabundance. :-)))
Maybe a person is tired of Germans, wants to talk to Russians, and food, homemade, what would they cook for him, and that's all, but you immediately suspect :-). In Europe, rarely anyone cooks, mostly semi-finished products or ready-made ones are bought.
Or maybe a person fell in love, and this also happens.
Good luck!
Leave it all to the relatives. Drive the number of the consulate into the memory of the mobile phone, find out the phone number of the police, in Germany. If suddenly something - do not be afraid, call. Always have your passport with you, do not give it to anyone, and even more so for preservation.
Buy a local card on your phone, the cheapest is 10 euros.
But this is so, precautions, rumors about the trade in young ladies, to put it mildly, are greatly exaggerated.
There are enough volunteers, and even with an overabundance. :-)))
Maybe a person is tired of Germans, wants to talk to Russians, and food, homemade, what would they cook for him, and that's all, but you immediately suspect :-). In Europe, rarely anyone cooks, mostly semi-finished products or ready-made ones are bought.
Or maybe a person fell in love, and this also happens.
Good luck!
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answered 11 years ago
This is not only in Germany. Always on e-mail you need to have scans of documents - passports, as well as a copy of an electronic ticket, or a voucher, if on it.
It's good to have rights. They do not go officially instead of a passport, but - the police usually turn a blind eye if the documents are only right, and this is better than nothing at all.
This is all in case you lose your passport.
Credit cards also have a service (at least it used to be a mastercard) - you could call, and they sent money through Western Union (this is in case the wallet was stolen).
It's good to have rights. They do not go officially instead of a passport, but - the police usually turn a blind eye if the documents are only right, and this is better than nothing at all.
This is all in case you lose your passport.
Credit cards also have a service (at least it used to be a mastercard) - you could call, and they sent money through Western Union (this is in case the wallet was stolen).
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answered 11 years ago
Stella, thank you so much! Everything is true, he is Russian and brought up according to Russian traditions, and the German mentality is different from ours))) So he does not want to associate his life with the Germans.
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answered 11 years ago
There is a forum, either "Germany in Russian", or "Russians in Germany", a huge portal, look there for info, you may find something for the city where you are going. Addresses where you can contact a woman with problems, in theory, should be. If not, google to the rescue. All over Europe there are organizations that help women - there is domestic violence, and tourists, and whatever. This is if you ran out into the street at night in slippers and you don’t want to go to the police, and you have nowhere to go. That can be there. Spend the night, yum-yum, good advice - provided. You just need to know the address first. I hope that it will not be needed, you will just feel more confident if you know that there is where to go "in which case".
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answered 11 years ago
It would be optimal like this:
You are going there at your own expense as a tourist. You pay for the hotel, air tickets and your own expenses for staying there. You can get to know him, objectively assess the situation from the outside.
Z.Y. Do not really believe the stories about the "mentality of the Germans." Usually this means that the groom is simply not quoted among the locals, and "Russian education" boils down to the fact that a woman should work at work and at home, but not claim the right to vote.
You are going there at your own expense as a tourist. You pay for the hotel, air tickets and your own expenses for staying there. You can get to know him, objectively assess the situation from the outside.
Z.Y. Do not really believe the stories about the "mentality of the Germans." Usually this means that the groom is simply not quoted among the locals, and "Russian education" boils down to the fact that a woman should work at work and at home, but not claim the right to vote.
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answered 11 years ago
Then my opinion of a man is for you.
Going to see him with the money sent to him - somehow, well ... not really.
Let him come to you, especially since he is an ethnic Russian, and you will decide whether he will suit you or not.
Good women do just that. Good luck!
Going to see him with the money sent to him - somehow, well ... not really.
Let him come to you, especially since he is an ethnic Russian, and you will decide whether he will suit you or not.
Good women do just that. Good luck!
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answered 11 years ago
We really want to meet him, but work and training do not allow him to come, no matter how much he wants to, it will only turn out in half a year, when he will have a fight!!!! There are only two options left: either wait for him or go myself))) Most likely I will choose the second option ... I will go at my own peril and risk, but I think everything will be fine !!!! If someone else has thoughts about my trip, please write)) I'm waiting for your tips
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answered 11 years ago
Girl, after all, you are going to a civilized country. It would be very worthwhile!!! to think and in the end NOT to go if it was about some kind of Iran, etc. I didn't drive that way myself, but some of my friends did, and everything was fine. Sometimes meetings in your city are much more risky.
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answered 11 years ago
What are you talking about, riskier?! Yes, in her city she is at least protected, she knows who to turn to for help, she will not be left without a roof over her head, money and documents. It's a very stupid idea to go to an unknown person who knows where. Even the most narrow-minded girl knows how this can end, and if you still want to return home safe and sound, forget about his money, go out if you want him back, and wait for your betrothed-mummer in your country. He can’t now, he can in half a year, a year. And anyway, girl, do you notice a strange and unconvincing reason not to come to you because of training?
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answered 11 years ago
Anastasia, he is not a stranger to me, and the reason is not only in training, but also in work !!! And I don’t really want to lose a good, highly paid job ... Therefore, in this situation, I think it’s better for me to come
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answered 11 years ago
Ride on, honey.
Everyone has their own concept of honor and dignity.
Everyone has their own concept of honor and dignity.
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answered 11 years ago
I already wrote to you, for your safety, wait for your friend's vacation and meet in your country at least for the first time
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answered 11 years ago
Ideally, as advised here, book a hotel yourself, and you will have a roof. And if the guy is a professional athlete, for example, then the reason is quite convincing. As for * in her city she is at least protected *, have you ever heard of cases when girls, after meetings, did NOT return home either tomorrow or the day after tomorrow? And when they go on vacation alone on tour packages, and then they get to know and communicate with someone?
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answered 11 years ago
Thank the granfather for the victory!
Well, against the background of mass messages on Turpravda about Turkish or Egyptian "friends" of Ukrainian women, the option with a German Slav looks pretty tolerable. Try to please him. They love it when they cook soup, borscht is better. Germans generally only heat up sausages and ready-made soup in bags in the microwave, and the most advanced in the kitchen can fry scrambled eggs.
Well, against the background of mass messages on Turpravda about Turkish or Egyptian "friends" of Ukrainian women, the option with a German Slav looks pretty tolerable. Try to please him. They love it when they cook soup, borscht is better. Germans generally only heat up sausages and ready-made soup in bags in the microwave, and the most advanced in the kitchen can fry scrambled eggs.
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answered 11 years ago
Are you seriously? girl, this is funny. Of course, I heard stories about how girls go to a foreign country to get a job, and terrible things happen to them there, or they leave by acquaintance on the Internet. and do not return. And yes, I really have not heard such "obvious" cases when a girl in her city started dating a guy, and disappeared without a trace. stupidity, in my opinion.
do not confuse Valeria and do not write heresy.
do not confuse Valeria and do not write heresy.
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Dear Anastasia, turn on the TV and the Internet is at your service, and you will see dozens of cases of such *heresy*. Remember last year's story with a girl who was burned by friends. Heresy and stupidity to believe in complete security and a guarantee of safety here !!! And there is no horror in having passport data, as they said here, to settle in a hotel and meet with your already !!! familiar person.
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answered 11 years ago
And what, you can lose your job by flying to Ukraine for the weekend??? And you don’t need more for the first acquaintance ...
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sigur62 he already likes me very much, and I know how to cook ..... God did not deprive me of this !!! I am confident in this person, but my friends talk about all these situations, how girls are forced to work in brothels, I certainly know that they are taken out under completely different circumstances, they themselves are not averse to earning extra money, but still I wonder what is wrong with me it will be!!! But I wasn’t looking for a job, and I didn’t meet him on the “dating foreigners” site, you can even say that I stumbled upon him myself, but I don’t need anything, only love and happiness))) And this person can make me happy
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answered 11 years ago
- how girls are forced to work in brothels,
- but I still think that it will be the same with me !!!--
- and I don't need anything, only love and happiness -
O! How thin it is!
Let us know how it ends, please!
- but I still think that it will be the same with me !!!--
- and I don't need anything, only love and happiness -
O! How thin it is!
Let us know how it ends, please!
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answered 11 years ago
elenako, be sure to write! I'll be back on February 27 and tell you everything right away
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answered 11 years ago
So if you yourself have already decided everything, why are there empty talk? Even the dates are already known.
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answered 11 years ago
"But what, you can lose your job by flying to Ukraine for the weekend ??? And you don't need more for the first acquaintance ..." (c)
+1000000!!!
+1000000!!!
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answered 11 years ago
- how girls are forced to work in brothels,
- but I still think that it will be the same with me !!!--
- and I don't need anything, only love and happiness -
O! How thin it is!
Let us know how it ends, please!
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And here 1000000!!!)))
- but I still think that it will be the same with me !!!--
- and I don't need anything, only love and happiness -
O! How thin it is!
Let us know how it ends, please!
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And here 1000000!!!)))
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answered 11 years ago
The author is concerned about three things:
- he sent you money, you are not his relative, or just a close person, after receiving his money you get into a certain dependence;
- you have thoughts (I hope you didn’t go further) to ask him for a scan of his documents, below you write that you are sure of him;
How do you know that he likes you very much? I’ll also write to you now that I’m crazy about you, from your eyes, from the color of your hair, and your mole on my left shoulder drove me crazy, believe me?
Everything is childish with you, and having asked for advice, you do not think about what they wrote to you, but try to convince everyone that you are right.
I wonder what your mother thinks about all this?
- he sent you money, you are not his relative, or just a close person, after receiving his money you get into a certain dependence;
- you have thoughts (I hope you didn’t go further) to ask him for a scan of his documents, below you write that you are sure of him;
How do you know that he likes you very much? I’ll also write to you now that I’m crazy about you, from your eyes, from the color of your hair, and your mole on my left shoulder drove me crazy, believe me?
Everything is childish with you, and having asked for advice, you do not think about what they wrote to you, but try to convince everyone that you are right.
I wonder what your mother thinks about all this?
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answered 11 years ago
In addition, he participates in some battles there.
If you don't like it, he throws it in the mouth and sends it home.
If you don't like it, he throws it in the mouth and sends it home.
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Where did you get the information that they are forced to work in brothels? This is complete nonsense, for Germany, the Netherlands, and countries where prostitution is official.
They pay taxes, this is an official employer.
Without a European passport, no one will take you to work. Now for the "black" such fines that very few people will take risks. Why force you? As I already said, there are enough volunteers, there are high tariffs. Why would anyone take the risk? Do you know how much they pay for the slave trade? Have you seen the movie? :-). Or read in the newspaper. The risk of this trip is such that you can run into someone looking for cheaper sex. For a night with a prostitute, you need to pay at least 1200 euros, and here for a smaller amount and longer, plus a game of "love". Again, this is one of the worst options, maybe there is an ordinary guy who is looking for a wife.
And there are a lot more of them, and there are even examples of successful marriages (I personally know several such couples who met on the Internet. Couples are a Dutch man and a Russian girl. Moreover, the men are normal, and the girls are not supermodels, ordinary appearance). For the sake of justice, it must be said that there are also unsuccessful examples when they live together for a short time, and then get divorced, the difference in mentality.
They pay taxes, this is an official employer.
Without a European passport, no one will take you to work. Now for the "black" such fines that very few people will take risks. Why force you? As I already said, there are enough volunteers, there are high tariffs. Why would anyone take the risk? Do you know how much they pay for the slave trade? Have you seen the movie? :-). Or read in the newspaper. The risk of this trip is such that you can run into someone looking for cheaper sex. For a night with a prostitute, you need to pay at least 1200 euros, and here for a smaller amount and longer, plus a game of "love". Again, this is one of the worst options, maybe there is an ordinary guy who is looking for a wife.
And there are a lot more of them, and there are even examples of successful marriages (I personally know several such couples who met on the Internet. Couples are a Dutch man and a Russian girl. Moreover, the men are normal, and the girls are not supermodels, ordinary appearance). For the sake of justice, it must be said that there are also unsuccessful examples when they live together for a short time, and then get divorced, the difference in mentality.
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answered 11 years ago
If you read my message, it will be clear that I was ready to go!!!! I just asked for advice on how to protect myself, where I can get help in a foreign country, to which I received decent answers from people. What does my mother think about this? I think this question is inappropriate, what's the difference.
In general, I received answers to my questions, opinions, of course, were divided, but that's okay!!! I listened to every advice))) Thank you for the criticism and support!!!
In general, I received answers to my questions, opinions, of course, were divided, but that's okay!!! I listened to every advice))) Thank you for the criticism and support!!!
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answered 11 years ago
The best option is to go yourself as a tourist. Return his money, book a hotel, buy insurance (preferably through a tour operator). Meet him in Germany, take a walk, go to a cafe.
It is simply indecent to come and live at his house until you are a bride.
And at the expense of security: keep documents in the hotel safe, with copies of your passport, visa, insurance, phone numbers of guides, consulates and police.
It is simply indecent to come and live at his house until you are a bride.
And at the expense of security: keep documents in the hotel safe, with copies of your passport, visa, insurance, phone numbers of guides, consulates and police.
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